I don’t know about you, but….everywhere I go the signs are there, I hear about IT on the news; IT happens on the school bus, parents share their stories with me and ask for help, whether I’m on the east coast or west coast, up north or down south; it doesn’t even matter what kind of school it is – public or charter –IT is happening! What is IT? I’ll get to that in a minute. Let me give you a hint by telling you how IT is being excused: “Well, now…boys will be boys, so no harm done, right?” or “You know girls now days….they are a little more competitive than they used to be…they don’t mean anything by it…your daughter has got to toughen up!” “Oh, I’m sure he/she wasn’t intending to hurt anyone.” “You don’t understand…he/she is only doing what was done to him/her so you can’t expect anything else!” Sound familiar???? Figured out what IT is…… IT is Bullying!
Below is an excellent article by Lynn Trimble that gives a good definition of bullying and the signs to watch for in a child who may be exhibiting signs of being bullied.
NEXT WEEK IN PART II OF THIS SERIES I’LL GIVE YOU 5 WAYS TO STOP CYBER BULLYING AND HOW TO HANDLE BULLYING IN GENERAL.
WHAT IS BULLYING?
By Lynn Trimble | August 2012
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and kids who bully others may have serious, lasting problems.
In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:
An imbalance of power: Kids who use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.
Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.
Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally and excluding someone from a group on purpose. There are three types of bullying: verbal, social and physical.— Source: U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services (stopbullying.gov)
Signs your child is being bullied:
A child who is being bullied may:
- Exhibit a change in behavior — withdrawing or acting in a passive manner, being overly active or aggressive or being self-destructive.
- Frequently cry or express feelings of sadness.
- Have low self-esteem.
- Show signs of bodily injury.
- Suddenly receive lower grades or have learning problems.
- Complain of unexpected physical symptoms such as stomachaches or tiredness.
- Invent reasons to avoid going to school.
- Change school routines or routes to get to school.
- Have belongings disappear suddenly.