In my last newsletter, I talked about focusing on the Season of Giving instead of getting. The article we are sharing with you today is all about giving… your love of humanity: “9 Ways to Teach Your Child Charity.” By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
The term “Charity” has taken on more than one definition in today’s culture, so I checked in with good ol’ Webster for the “Full” definition and found just what I was looking for: what I believe is the definition of true Charity: “1. benevolent goodwill toward or love of humanity.” If we have Charity, we will act in the manner or ways described in the second definition listed: “2. generosity and helpfulness especially toward the needy or suffering; also: aid given to those in need.”
Charity, all too often, is seen as only giving money or doing something for people who are disadvantaged in some way. I disagree – and so does Webster! Christmas is the perfect time to remember the true meaning of Charity – to have benevolent goodwill toward or love of humanity: showing kindness, love, friendship, being patient with a tired child, smiling, softening the hurt of a broken heart, extending a listening ear, seeing the good in each other, choosing not to take offense, being a peacemaker, looking for a positive solution when conflict arises; doing/being these ways toward another because we recognize our one common characteristic…our humanity. We all have it, regardless of our status in our community, our stage in life, our bank balance (or lack thereof); the beauty others see in us, or not;….we still share our humanness.
I hope you enjoy this article as much as I did – and, although it focuses on Charity being expressed through acts of service, these acts are diverse in nature and intent – not only in how they touch the lives of others, but those fortunate enough to participate in gifting them. I hope you are inspired to embody true Charity this Season, and as you do, motivate your children to embrace it as part of theirs, and together, carry it into the New Year by sharing with them the inspiring tips in “9 Ways to Teach Your Child Charity.”
By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
Charity and the spirit of giving have been elevated to a new level in the past few years, following natural disasters, war in Iraq, and terrorist attacks around the globe. After witnessing the horrific images of pain and suffering streaming steadily across their TV sets, more people than ever before have dipped deeper into their own pockets to offer needed relief to the survivors of unprecedented tragedies.
Many parents are using the destruction delivered by these catastrophes as an opportunity to help children learn about charity and the importance of reaching out to others in their time of need. They have made generous family donations, often involving their children in picking out the charity, writing the check, and preparing and mailing the envelope. They have allowed their children to witness turning the pain and grief of unimaginable loss into a time of extending love and compassion to unknown people half way around the world.
Clearly, recent devastation provides an opportune time to teach children about charity. But what if parents want lessons about charity to be more than a one-time occurrence? What if they want the spirit of giving to be a way of life for their children? How do they make charity become a habit?
To help your children acquire the habit of charity, consider implementing as a family the strategies which follow.
1. Donate clothes.
Periodically go through your closets rooting out clothes you haven’t worn in a while, which can be given to the Salvation Army or Goodwill for distribution to the needy. Encourage your children to do the same. Allow them to select which clothes or toys they wish to donate. The value of this activity is diminished greatly if you go through their closets for them without their presence. For maximum benefit, get your children involved in choosing the appropriate items. Take your children with you when you drop the items off at the charitable destination.
2. Help neighbors.
Regularly engage in a service-oriented project. Rake the leaves of an elderly couple. Bake cookies for a serviceman or servicewoman. Bake bread and deliver it to the homeless feeding station in your community.
3. Give blood.
Take your children with you so they see you as a model for giving. Talk to them about why you choose to donate blood and what you hope it will accomplish by doing so.
4. Make birthdays charitable.
Set up birthday parties as a time for giving to others. At your child’s first school-age birthday party, ask guests to bring a gift of a book (new or used) to be donated to a local charity. Talk to your son about the books he has and about children who have no books. Explain that one way to celebrate a birthday would be to give to those who have less. Involve the birthday boy in the decision of whether not to give the books to a woman’s shelter, a doctor’s office, or some other appropriate organization. When you deliver the books with your son, record it on camera, and revisit that movie (or those pictures) on future birthdays.
5. Include pets.
At regular intervals, buy dog or cat food and take it to the humane society. Allow your children to spend some time with the recipients of the gift.
6. Deliver nutrition.
Build food baskets around the holidays and give to a needy family suggested by your church or school. Involve your children is selecting canned goods, fruit, and other treats to include. Decorate the gift package and deliver it together, as a family.
7. Change for a difference.
Create a charity jar to be used by the family when allowances are distributed. Invite children to share some of their allowance with others through donating to the jar. As the jar fills, decide as a family where to contribute the contents. You may choose to save a whale, buy gloves for needy children, or contribute to a cancer charity among others. Read about various charities on the Internet and share this information with your children to help them make an informed decision.
8. Help elders.
Do things for the elderly that they have trouble doing for themselves. Pick up sticks in your neighbor’s yard after a big windstorm. Mow the grass for Grandma. Wash Grandpa’s car. Clean their windows in the spring. Help them plant flowers.
9. Pitch in.
Get on a regular service schedule at your church or synagogue. Sign up for a time to mow the grass and trim the bushes. Take your turn ushering and allow your child to assist.
By implementing some of these ideas or others like them, you will be teaching your children that charity is not reserved only for emergencies. You will be helping them appreciate that reaching out to others in need is a way of life, rather than a moment in time when a catastrophic disaster occurs. Remember, while you are giving to others, you are giving your children important messages about your beliefs concerning the spirit of giving.
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. Moorman is a former classroom teacher and the currect director of the Institute of Personal Power.